The unspoken rules of wedding guest etiquette

Weddings come with a surprising number of expectations that are rarely written down. Guests often want to “do the right thing” but aren’t always sure what that looks like - especially as weddings become more personal, less traditional, and more varied in style.

After planning hundreds of weddings, we’ve seen where guests unintentionally trip up, and where thoughtful behaviour quietly elevates the entire experience. These are the unspoken rules that make you a dream guest — without feeling stiff or old-fashioned.

RSVP promptly and accurately - Late or vague responses affect seating plans, catering numbers, and costs more than most guests realise.

Respect the couple’s timeline - Arrive on time, be seated when asked, and trust that moments are choreographed for a reason.

Follow the dress code thoughtfully - It’s about respecting the tone of the day, not outshining or underplaying it.

Don’t bring plus-ones unless invited - Space, budget, and intimacy are carefully considered - surprises create stress.

Keep phones discreet - Unplugged ceremonies exist for a reason. Trust the professionals to capture the moment.

Be mindful with alcohol - Enjoy yourself, but remember you’re part of a shared experience - not the main character.

Stay present - Mingling matters. The couple chose their guest list intentionally.

Leave when it winds down - A graceful exit is part of good etiquette - lingering too long can stall breakdowns and finales.